How to Get a Girl in 10 Days

"No matter what, no matter who, no matter when, any man has a chance to sweep ANY woman off her feet. He just needs the right broom" - Hitch

I've been told that all women are the same. However, if we are all the same then why haven't men figured us out yet. Mhmm think on that for a minute. If that is how you feel then you're choosing a girl, not a woman. For some reason men tend to blame women when they find themselves back in the same situation...Single, or not being noticed by the girl they want. I am not going to bullsh*t y'all. Women aren't difficult. The way to get a woman isn't complex, and it shouldn't leave you feeling like you're stuck in a maze. You just need to LISTEN up. Everything I am about to tell you is the broom you will use to sweep that special girl off her feet. However, this whole week thinking about this topic has me wondering... can a guy LISTEN and learn how to get a girl in 10 days?

Alright, lets dive in.

Number 1: Now this is a step for a man. A man who has matured and doesn't still have little boy habits. You should never change who you truly are to impress a girl. If you're shy, use that. If you're funny then make that girl laugh. If you're sweet, be sweet like sugarcane. etc. You can't use something that you don't have. If you try to act like a different person then right off the bat your relationship is built off of a lie. The worst thing you can do is try to be what you believe she wants. Eventually you will get tired of not being yourself and you will revert back to who you truly are and she will think you've changed. If you need a longer description on what I mean by that then go read The Wrong Mister. However, for a man, the right girl will love every part of you. Just be yourself. Simple.

Number 2: Now for something that is a bit more difficult. Pride. For some odd reason this one is a big thing for guys. Y'all believe that fully pursuing a woman makes you a simp, so y'all half a$$ it and then wonder why she isn't impressed. Set aside your pride and pursue her. I hate it when a guy says, "women should make the first move." God has built into a man a strong desire to be the initiator in relationships. That's the part of his manhood. So why not seize the challenge. The Bible says, "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" Proverbs 18:22. It does not say, "She who goes looking!" With technology now-a-days guys think it is sufficient enough to just snap a girl some lame line and think that is all the effort they have to put in. Like no. It is so easy to hide behind a phone and ask a girl out. I guarantee you that your chances of her saying yes in person are way higher than they would be over a phone. If you don't want to do it in person because you're shy, then call her. Snap and texting just aren't it. Do you know how many guys probably do that all the time. If you ask her in person or by phone call you've just made yourself stand out more than any other guy. Your pride has got to go if you want this to work. (This step goes hand in hand with the next step.)

Number 3: EFFORT. All a woman wants is for a guy to TRY. Effort is so attractive to a woman, and it will benefit you I swear. Think about it like this. Trophy hunters don't get in the stand and shoot the first deer that comes out. Why? Because the first deer that comes out is never the best deer. The best deer are always the ones that come out right before it gets dark. That requires a hunter to wait and put in the time to get the right shot. A trophy hunter will get up every morning and night to have the chance to get that shot. They study the deer seeing if it will come to corn or if it stays near the brush. The point is men, that if you want a special woman then you have to get to know her and be patient for the perfect opportunity to get a chance with her. Men are natural born hunters while women like to be hunted(pursued). Our generation has allowed us to become lazy. However, women still want to be hunted/pursued/known/chased. So, get to know her and what she likes. If you get to know her then you will know exactly what to do to wow her on y'all's date. The woman you need to be pursuing shouldn't be the most convenient one, it should be the one you have to work for.

Number 4: Plan a date! Girls don't want you to ask them what they want to do for the date. Be creative. It is so cute when a guy plans the date and doesn't give any details on what he planned. Just give her a heads up on what to wear and then surprise her with a cute/fun date. That adds some excitement for the girl! Here are some ideas. Dinner and then stargazing afterwards so that y'all can talk and get to know each other better. Mini golf/bowling and then lunch. Go on a double date! If she likes sports then take her to a game. Go get ice cream or frozen yogurt. There are so many date ideas that y'all can come up with. If you aren't super creative then hit up everyone's best friend, Google.

Number 5: I hope you caught on to all the times I used the word LISTEN up until now because listening is the most crucial step in getting a woman. When you are engaging in conversation with a woman, look at her. Don't look at her lips or her boobs. Actually listen to what she is saying so that you can respond. Get to know her. A woman loves it when a guy can have a conversation with a her and then later on (few hours, or the next day) ask her about something she said during that conversation. It will surprise her in a good way and prove to her that you actually listened and remembered what she said.

Number 6: The little things matter! Now that you are pursuing her and getting to know her you will catch on to the little things that make her happy. If she gets excited every time she sees flowers then you should take note that she loves flowers. Now I am not saying you have to buy her a bouquet of flowers all the time, but if you see a flower when you are with her, go and pick one and give it to her. I promise you she will love it! If she loves music, send her some of your favorites. Better yet take her on a drive and have her play her favorite songs and then play her a song that makes you think of her. If she loves the outdoors then plan a picnic and go to a park. If she loves candy than remember her favorite and bring her some the next time you see her. Also, opening doors is still something a woman notices. Always open the door for your girl. It is not too old school to be a gentleman and do the basic things men should do.

Number 7: Now. What to do when you want to kiss her. First and foremost you should make sure you know she is at that point and that she wants to kiss. Most girls give very obvious signals when they want you to kiss them. If after y'all's date and you're walking her to her door (as you should) and it takes her a while to open the door then she wants you to kiss her. Lean in 90% and let her come the last 10%, this will show her that you respect her. For a woman, the first kiss says a lot. If you're too pushy then she will assume you just want one thing from her. Don't treat her like a piece of meat. If you don't try then she will think you aren't interested. For the first kiss you want to be gentle. Make her feel fragile. Hands on the face, nothing below the waist. Leave her speechless. Leave her thinking about that kiss. If you can do that then ooof you will be golden my friend. After that first kiss there is nothing else I can do for you. It is your job not to mess it up now.

Number 8: My last bit of advice for y'all isn't how to get a girl, it is how to keep your girl. Here we go. DON'T stop treating her like she is a queen even after you get her. It doesn't matter how long y'all have been together you should still take her on dates and continue to pursue her. This is the part that a lot of guys fall short on. Yes, your relationship will get more relaxed the longer y'all are together. However, you should never let the relationship fall into a rut. Surprise her with a special date every now and then. Let that girl get all dressed up for ya. You have to continue to make her feel as special as she did when you were trying to get her.

Be yourself, let go of your pride, pursue her, plan a date, listen up, pay attention to the little things, and make that first kiss count! That is all you have to do to get a girl. Like I said, its not difficult. Now it is all up to y'all. I've given you the broom, so go out there and sweep that special girl off her feet

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